I’ve been mentally out of it with regard to blogging for some time now. I just don’t feel inspired to write anything of quality that I can look back at and say, “Yes, those are my feelings on that situation, and I stand by them and feel they are substantiated.” That is not the only reason I haven’t blogged anything, my thoughts are directed elsewhere. They are towards my church, family, and trying to get more consistent in reading, hygiene, and recovering from the brutally hot summers we are having here in So. Oregon at present. But, browsing Google news I ran across an article that just hit me. At first glance, most would just consider it a throw away. Something just speaking of Hollywood and reality TV that just runs par for the course. Or, perhaps looking at it a slightly different way, seeing the seemingly good motivation for the “reality star’s” convictions. Again, it hit me. It is a throw away. That’s the very point you can look at, when those two things are the first place you go in critique of the substance of the article, that signals the very beginning of your collapse into a nonchalant attitude towards marriage and childbearing. Here’s the article and title, “Blac Chyna Waiting to Marry Rob Kardashian Until After Pregnancy Because She Wants to ”Turn Up” at the Wedding!”. I don’t know these people, and apart from my mother’s reality TV watching, I would never know who Rob Kardashian is. The fact they clearly don’t take the relationship of marriage and the blessing that is the intimate bonding of two people seriously, is remarkably clear. She is pregnant, with his child and they aren’t married… yet. That’s what strikes the proverbial chord, “yet”. Rob wants to go[get married] now, as apposed to before they committed blatant fornication for the sake of their own selfish desires. Chyna, by way of referring to a “traditional way” clearly understands this as well. But she says, “traditional”. I get the feeling neither of them understand what those words imply. I highly doubt they know, or the rest of our culture for that matter, what a “traditional” wedding is. Not too long ago I would have looked at this and applauded lightly, “It’s a noble thing.”, I might have said. How naive I once was. I might not have looked twice at the article if the reason for this would have been somewhere along the lines of them feeling guilty of their child being born out of wedlock. Perhaps even them considering the blasé approach to their relationship and seeking to rectify the situation with a truer outlook. No! In the bride and bridegroom’s own words,
“Every woman deserves to have a beautiful wedding not when they’re pregnant,” Rob added as Chyna chimed in, “Because I want to turn up after. I want to turn up on my honeymoon and I want to turn up on you.”
What can be gleaned from this? The rest of the article doesn’t give much. Just that they want more children, thankfully not in this blasphemous way.
I say blasphemous because of, again, the blasé approach to marriage they hold to–one that denigrates the God given bond a man and woman possess when they are covenanted to each other, and only each other; while showing a God blessed patience of delayed gratification.
The gleaning I gather from this?
- A pregnant woman’s body is ugly. Therefore, unfit for marriage or sexual intercourse.
- If one’s body is not “perfect” to the eyes, a wedding or even the wedding night is lack luster.
- Having a child before marriage is just ‘what you do’, it’s just a passing thought.
- The culture isn’t appalled by this, considering nothing is brought up in the article.
One text of Scripture is brought to mind with all of this,
“Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Heb 13:4 NASB
John Piper, in a sermon from 1991, gives this comment on verse 4,
So when Hebrews 13:4 says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all,” we should hear the ring of preciousness. The Bible is telling us this morning: Let marriage always be thought of as precious. Let it be treasured like gold and silver and rare jewels. Let it be revered and respected like the noblest, most virtuous person you have ever known. Let it be esteemed and valued as something terribly costly like the long, black, marble Vietnam Memorial in Washington, D.C. In other words, when you think of marriage, let yourself be gripped by emotions of tremendous respect and sanctity. In relation to marriage cultivate the feeling that this not to be touched quickly or handled casually or treated commonly. In God’s eyes marriage is precious and therefore he says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all.”
Marriage for these two people-and the greater culture in the western world–is to treat marriage as common. This is the very reason we, as a culture, are where we are at concerning the “marriage debate”. The moment we went from a high view of marriage: abstaining divorce, adultery, fornication, holding sexual purity in honor, and calling to account, those that do not; to a culture that seeks sexual satisfaction everywhere; from advertisement, to demanding it in every romantic comedy/drama, to teaching young people that you have to, “try it on to see if it fits”; we fell off the slippery slope and careened into the sharp cliff of sexual degradation.
There is a blessing, not only for the people of God, when marriage is held in honor. Even the unbeliever is blessed by the union. It is demonstrably apparent what benefits and Divine blessing the union of a man and a woman is on a culture, society, or nation. Here is a lecture from a non biblical viewpoint. The last part of verse 4 aptly describes our culture, this country, and those who applaud it with arms wide open, “fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” And judge he currently is. May God, through Christ and his Spirit, strengthen his Church in the days and years to come.