This is a topic most people just give a wave of the hand to, as if they mean the same thing. They in fact don’t, and I’d like to take a few minutes, if you’ll just read, and hear me out.
“Esteem” is a subjective category. It is something that fluctuates from person to person situation to situation, it is not necessarily a static (unchanging) concept. It is a word to describe how a person feels towards any other particular thing. The other thing could be a company, clothing, food, another person or even themselves.
es·teeməˈstēm/noun1.respect and admiration, typically for a person.“he was held in high esteem by colleagues”
synonyms: respect, admiration, acclaim, approbation, appreciation, favor, recognition, honor, reverence; Moreverb1.respect and admire.“many of these qualities are esteemed by managers”
synonyms: respect, admire, value, regard, acclaim, appreciate, like, prize, treasure, favor, revere“such ceramics are highly esteemed”
- FORMALconsider; deem.“I should esteem it a favor if you could speak to them”
- the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.“we had every confidence in the staff”
synonyms: trust, belief, faith, credence, conviction“I have little confidence in these figures”
antonyms: skepticism, distrust
- the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.“it is not possible to say with confidence how much of the increase in sea levels is due to melting glaciers”
- a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.“she’s brimming with confidence”
- the telling of private matters or secrets with mutual trust.“someone with whom you may raise your suspicions in confidence“
- a secret or private matter told to someone under a condition of trust.plural noun: confidences“the girls exchanged confidences about their parents”
The direction of confidence would be the same as esteem. One may have it in the “self” direction or given outwardly. Either of these can be a blessing, but what is worse they can be a curse or even sinful.
I have one of these and not the other, or at least one of these is quite low and the other strong. I have little self esteem and strong confidence. I know in the secular realm often it is encouraged to have high volumes of both of these, in the Christian sphere it is quite the opposite.
“For there is no distinction, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” Rom 3:22b–23 (NET)
The soul of a person is who they are in their entirety, body, mind, and spirit.
“know that all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose” Rom 8:28 (NET)
“Nevertheless, let us live up to the standard that we have already attained. Be imitators of me, brothers and sisters, and watch carefully those who are living this way, just as you have us as an example.” Phil 3:16–17 (NET)
This doesn’t sound like a man who think lowly of himself. The question is why?
“let us take thought of how to spur one another on to love and good works,” Heb 10:24 (NET) and “we are his creative work, having been created in Christ Jesus for good works that God prepared beforehand so we can do them.” Eph 2:10 (NET)
It’s a mental stance that has to be constantly reminded to each Christian. It is what I have to do to myself. I have worth and value because of who possesses me, because of who purchased my life so that I (and we Christians) might live for him and his glory.
“So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God.” 1 Cor 10:31 (NET)
“For every one of God’s promises are “Yes” in him; therefore also through him the “Amen” is spoken, to the glory we give to God. But it is God who establishes us together with you in Christ and who anointed us, who also sealed us and gave us the Spirit in our hearts as a down payment.” 2 Cor 1:2022 (NET)